Love Recession:Part 2

Love Recession: Part 2

Well, Facebook, MySpace, and whoever else reads this, I’ve officially took the gloves off for this one! I turned the governor off and I’m putting my foot on the gas! As a matter fact issue me a speeding ticket on this one! I can’t type this shit fast enough!

Some of you may have tuned in to hear me on Neko Cheri “Live” Blog Talk Radio” If not go to www.blogtalkradio.com/nekocherilive/2009/10/01/love-and-relationship-stimulus-package The show was a great experience and I’m thankful that I was on tonight, but it felt unfinished tonight for me. There will be a part two, but I got some things to say that me and some of the guys on the show wanted to address! At least I will right now! My goal as with anything I write or do is to leave people with a message they can take home and possibly use in everyday life.

Tonight was supposed to be about what I call “Your Love and Relationship Stimulus Package”, but we got off base tonight! I’m not mad at that though because getting off base on the show, put me on base this very moment and reaffirmed what I’ve known for a while……A lot of people have it twisted when it comes to relationships and all that it takes to get there, IF THEY WANT TO GET THERE IN THE FIRST DAMN PLACE!!

As men and women we get shit confused!!! I swear the minute the subject gets on sex, everything changes and the message becomes twisted and it’s a very difficult thing to come out of that! Is sex a great thing? YES!! Is it the only thing that matters, HELL NO!!! People confuse sex with love, people confuse sex with power, people confuse sex with talent, people confuse sex as caring and in some cases sex is an occupation, whether you’re getting paid for it or not!!! (Pay attention to last line if that flew over your head!)

It’s very easy for women to think that men are all about sex! After all we are supposed to be the pursuers right!! Women get offered sex in many different forms and fashions each and every single day, but not all men are purely just interested in you for sex and I find it terrible and insult to the intelligence of the good men in the world that there are some women that think this way! The bad men or I should say the men who are purely talking to a woman in pursuit of pussy mess it up for the good guys who actually want a woman to have a relationship with and not just any woman, but a good woman!! The fucked up part is that we have good women dealing with bad men and that in itself is not only messing it up for the next man that comes along, but it fucks up a women’s thinking as well, not to mention her self-esteem if they really got into a man and they got mistreated or cheated on!
Then as a result sometimes we get the sexually free, revolutionary, Ms. I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T ,miss I’m a Diva, type women that get things twisted off top!! Now let me clarify something, because not all independent women think this way, but for those of you that do…..well, think again!!

I’ll say this also, and it came up in the show……MEN LOOK AT WOMEN DIFFERENTLY WHEN THEY ARE KNOWN TO HAVE MULITPLE SEXUAL PARTNERS!!!! It’s unfortunate, because when men are known for having a lot of sexual partners they are rewarded, while women are looked down on! I don’t give a damn how comfortable your with your sexuality ladies, because if you put out that “I’m just getting what I need and having my moment message all the time”, then you’re setting yourself up for that hoe label! It’s totally unfair, but this behavior is expected of men, when actually it’s equally bad! When I’m taking about a woman with multiple partners I’m not talking about a woman who may have been with more than um….let’s just say 15 men in her lifetime! For instance……If your 30 and you been having sex since you where say 16, then personally I wouldn’t call that promiscuous, especially if they’re sex life isn’t publicly known! There may not be many virgins, but we don’t want a woman that everyone is had and no woman should want a man that’s been with everybody either!! Everybody has pasts, but no one wants a hoe! We all have pasts, but I’m just saying…..

For instance…..If you see a woman with a man that you know and you actually seen that woman commit a sexual act like giving head to a number of guys….at the same time…..and there not a porn star…..then chances are……that woman is out there….BAD!! You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife fool! (Cue P.Diddy with ad libs-“Take that, take that!”)

A man, well at least a good man, wants a lady!! A lady doesn’t have her business all out in the street! A lady doesn’t sleep with everything that walks her way or better yet with everyman that gives her attention! Also, for you men that think you’re players telling all your sexual conquests, that don’t make you more of a man than the next man either!! Gentlemen never tell!!, but punks do! I understand the difference between a woman choosing her mate opposed to settling for what she attracts too!! Also ladies you can take that either way, because in some cases you may not attract the good guy that has it all together, because you may attract a buster or a thug that may break you off, but leaves pregnant and won’t help you raise that child!! Did you hear that? I just pissed somebody off!!

Let me get off the women for a while because men are the professionals at just taking what they attract! Why do you ask? Because a man will just think about what they can get from that woman!! First of all sex of course, then money, driving their car, and if a woman has her own place and that man doesn’t…..AWWW SHIT!! These women who allow a man to use them this way, especially if that man doesn’t have anything going for himself and he treats you badly in the first place generally have low-self esteem anyway!! That low-self esteem could be due to a poor self-image, weight issues, women who bloomed late and don’t know how to handle the attention, to woman that are simply clueless to understanding when a man really loves them, opposed to when he is using you! And while this is going on a man can tell if you have low-self esteem! The bigger question to the guys is can you handle a confident independent lady??

We as men and women need to be more careful in who we deal with! We all know that there are STD’s, HIV, AIDS and something that we can lose before we lose are lives to sex……our self –respect!

Like I said, people get sex confused with everything else! Everybody knows what sex is, but most people have no idea what it takes to make love! Why do you ask? Because most of us are in a rush to have sex! When people make love is lasts a lot longer and it’s a well deserved gift! Love making isn’t something that everyone receives either! It’s an emotional attachment to that person based on love, not to mention a whole lot better than just sex! If your having good sex with someone then, that is all it is!!! Is there anything wrong with that? No! If your sleeping with everybody to find it, then that’s a problem!

We are a perverted generation! There are all kinds of drugs to fix your sexual problems, but there isn’t one drug that will cure someone of pancreatic cancer! Hell there’s no permanent cure for eczema, but they got a bunch of cures for erectile dysfunction!

Sex is a beautiful thing, but we misuse it and mistreat it!! It’s a sin most of us commit, have committed and will continue to commit! I’m just going to leave that statement at that! You or I are without sin so until all of are, some us need to quit the pulpiting! That statement is for some of these so called “I ain’t never did nothing wrong Christians!” Truth be known I know a few and they really are not that Godly as the image they portray! They like getting broke off too and they aren’t married, but will happily show up for church on Sunday!…..Did you hear that? Yep me too! Just pissed somebody else off!!! I’m just saying keep it 100 and quit acting like you so saved that you don’t sin because we all do!

I hate the fact that people don’t focus on finding love as much as finding sexual conquests and even worst when people confuse the two! I’m disappointed in the fact that some people don’t believe in marriage, but will have a child with someone that they wouldn’t think of marrying, if they even believed in marriage in the first place! It’s a hell of a thing when men and woman get hurt not only because the people we seek sometime hurt us and they don’t know themselves, but even worst when we don’t know who the hell we are either and we haven’t taken time to find out ourselves instead of allow someone to define you!

I see men and women sell themselves short everyday and then have the audacity to call it reality or think their keeping real, but in essence their slowly giving up on what they really want and need! What these people need to do is admit what there really feeling and tell the truth! Some people sell themselves short because of their appearance, financial situation, poor self-esteem or simply because they begin to lose hope and patience because it’s much harder to find a good man or woman opposed to the bad, so they settle! Anything worth having is worth waiting for!!

When the hell are we going to wake up!!??? And people wonder why some marriages don’t last and why people have difficulty maintaining a healthy romantic relationship in the first place! The answer is simple! It’s not built on the right things!!! There foundation is weak!!
Love isn’t enough!! Sex sure the hell isn’t enough, and today even having a child by someone is really not enough!!! Let’s build relationships on mutual interests, mutual respect, mutual goals, and take are time! Take the time to build trust!! Go deeper than appearance with your mate and make your mate your best friend! I have a beautiful girlfriend, but I’m with her because she’s a lot more than pretty!!! A lot more!! Love will follow and lovemaking will follow…..Then marriage and possibly then a child! And I’m not knocking people who have children out of wedlock, but a child is to be loved and raised no matter what the relationship situation with love! A child is not a mutual agreement or a mutual interest and most importantly not a mutual reason to ignore and fight each other!!

Until we learn to build relationships on love, positive things, and most importantly, God, we will continue be in a state of a “Love Recession”

Well, at least that’s my take…..What’s yours?

God Bless,
“13 Ways” (The Movement)




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